In all the hype written about our shocking New Zealand stats on suicide I am constantly dismayed at the lack of forethought about digging deeper as to what is causing us to be so damn un-resilient in the first place. We talk a little about relationships, connection, we talk a lot about depression and anxiety and people are very happy to share on social media about their experiences of the same, but nowhere oh nowhere do I ever see what I believe is a contributing fundamental issue being addressed..