Are you okay?

You might feel not okay at times, you might feel there is something ‘wrong with you. People might even suggest that there is something wrong with you.

I can’t tell you, how many times I say to someone - “you are okay”, “there is nothing ‘wrong’ with you”.

Your body or your mind (or both) are reacting the way they are because something happened to you.

What happened to me?

You may not know what that is. But often you have an idea. You have pushed it away, deep down because you had to.

• You may have experienced loss at an early age.

• You may have experienced rejection from someone who was supposed to love you.

• You may have experienced fear, abandonment, death or grief.

All these experiences change us somehow. They cause a belief to occur. Often a false belief ‘I am unlovable’, ‘I must always be good to be accepted’, ‘I mustn’t show emotions’. And we go on for the rest of our lives carrying this belief because at one stage, many years ago, it served us well.

Why do we struggle?

And then one day we are an adult and we can’t figure out why we struggle when we are alone. Or why we are such people pleasers. Or why when we are rejected even slightly, we fall like a tonne of bricks. We get triggered. Our child - our little me - who we have carried with us all this time - is still there, feeling afraid, lost, rejected. Believing an old belief we formed many years ago.

But guess what?

Healing with compassion

We are no longer that little one. We are now an adult. We can take care, accept and love ourselves just the way we are. We can provide love, compassion and support for our very own selves. We can heal our own wounds and nurture our own souls. We are no longer dependent on others for protection - we are whole.

So take the little mini-me and let him/her know that actually, it’s okay. You have got this! YOU’RE OKAY. There is nothing wrong. It’s just an old belief that no longer serves you.

Break the shackles of the mis-belief.

You are good, whole and loved, just the way you are. You are okay.